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Warrior-Preneur Success: 2 Questions to Consider

I volunteer my time with Wardrobe for Opportunity and speak at a graduation ceremony for a women’s program they have called Pathways in Oakland CA.  The first time I spoke there, I was invited because of my “motivational ability” to tell my story as a speaker.  These are women down on their luck, laid off, no supplemental income, often single parents or a husband that’s not working either, and honestly they are just trying to make life work.

I love when I get to tell my story.  I love weaving the important lessons I learned along the way that they can hear and apply sooner.  My story is not uncommon, that’s why it’s important to tell. Many women asked many great questions, but two in particular I want to share with you. I think these questions, and not just my answers but my strongly held beliefs about them are critical for success!

One Question: Do you ever say to yourself, “If I had only done that sooner?”  Of course that answer was no!  Regrets get in the way of success!  Instead, I think it is more important to ask yourself: what lesson did I learn so I can improve over time? What can I do differently to get a different outcome if a similar situation arises?

Second Question: “Now that you are doing what you love, what’s next?”  That is always such an interesting question!  What’s amazing is the possibilities are endless when you do what you love because you are:

  • Lifelong leaner, so you stay cutting edge
  • Flexible and adaptable, so you can move your interests with current trends and interests of others

These two questions are key to success.  Do what you love and the possibilities are endless and never regret what happens along the way. How to you make sure you live by these beliefs?

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  • Shannon Crawford
    Ann- questions that I just went over with my Big Fish Nation business coach 2 hours ago- WOW! Now, what is the universe trying to tell me? I love that saying "do what you love, love what you do." I agree- no regrets, things happen in a perfect time- So, what I am doing is writing it down- and seeing what will show up- not taking myself to seriously, and keeping up my creative energy!

    Shannon Crawford
  • Louise Edington
    Great questions! I can honestly say that I am pretty good at moving on when things don't work out the way I planned and using that experience to move on to the next chapter of my life. I love being a lifelong learner and moving and changing with what life brings me (in my case moving internationally with my husband's work) and usually finding that those moves have brought bigger and better opportunities for me if I let myself be open to that. Samantha is right - stinkin' thinkin' is what gets in the way. Without my last big move I would not be doing what I'm doing today and I'm very grateful for that :)
  • samantha janney
    Question #1 is all about "stinkin' thinking" - those thoughts that tell you you couldn't do it for xyz reason. To get beyond the "stinkin' thinking" I have tried to break down the larger goal into small bite sized actions and celebrate the success each step of the way. It makes me feel better and before I know it I am on my way to a more successful outcome.

    I feel blessed to be able to do something I love - help others experience the benefits of cultural exchange. There is nothing more rewarding than a family telling me they are better off because of their experience of hosting an exchange student, sharing their culture and learning from one another. It's the gift that keeps on giving.

    Thanks for the thought provoking questions!
  • Those are two great questions. I believe it's important to learn a lesson from all of life's experiences and staying positive even when things seem to not be going so well. Keeping the faith that something bigger and better is in store for you should allow you to not have regrets but to always feel as though you're learning as you travel down the path called life. Realize that you can't learn and grow without mistakes, so accept them as life lessons. Later for regrets! Especially if you're doing what you truly love and you're making a living at it. You may not be making as much as you would like right now, but the fact that you're able to generate sustainable income doing what you love with endless possibilities as to where you can take your passion should be exciting and inspiring!
  • Bev Scott
    I have always done what I love and continue to do so. As life unfolds, new adventures, opportunities to grow and learn present themselves. I am a lifelong learner and there is so much more to learn and experience. No regrets, I just take time to reflect, learn and then move on. Thank you for the opportunity.
  • These two questions and answers show an attitude geared toward success! We need to remind ourselves of this sometimes.
  • That is true huh Orene! We can be so busy doing doing doing!
  • Thanks, Ann! Always love your questions! I have just the opposite response to "wishing I'd done it sooner." It's sheer GRATITUDE to be where I am at 62 -- taking on the most exhilarating adventure of my life!! By listening to my heart, trusting my own unfolding path, and plying myself with good marketing, networking and social networking skills, here's what's next: moving to Maui to be a facilitator for the most amazing company, The Peaceful Woman. Possibilities untold!!!
  • You Maridel are simply a beautiful example of living, learning, growing! And congrats on the exciting new adventure!
  • Knowing me, once I've conquered one thing, I'm on to the next. I don't think it ever stops. Now regrets, I have a hard time forgiving myself for things I didn't do, but the past is the past and what ever happened brought me here - An old dog learning new tricks!
  • This post really made me think! I always ask, what if I would have done that sooner, or later. I'm always second guessing myself, and that is so BAD to do! I like the perspective to ask what did I learn from it? Thanks for making me think Ann!

    Shawna E Anderson
    www.YourBestMindOnline.com
    "Your Brain Search & Rescue Program"
  • I have a strong sense of being guided, so while regret can sometimes be a temptation, it's quickly replaced with exciting awareness that things come at the right time for me to dance with them. Doing what I love is huge, and it's taught me that life is creativity. As a teenager I was full of angst wanting to "be a creative person". That seems funny now that it's more about riding the next wave. Great discussion, and I love hearing that you were offering your story and insights to the women at Pathways.
  • two great questions...i also agree with your answers...a life filled with regret...is a life not lived...and well...we are not promised tomorrow...so we should be living each day like it's our last...

    that being said...for those times that i did do something that i wish i hadn't, or wish i had done it sooner...etc...instead of regretting...i try and focus on the lesson in it...learn from it...and move on and do better...

    doing what i love is a blessing in itself...being able to help others never gets old...so what would be next? learning new ways to express my love for fashion and helping style those along the way...which in turn boosts self esteem...and gets them on the road of acheiving their goals and dreams...i love the cycle!

    great post ann!
  • Great question. For me, it is continuing ed, and being flexible and creative, both in working with new parents directly, and in creating or learning new strategies to accomplish beneficial ends - for them, their babies and their family units. This area is rich with opportunities for creativity - and jokes:-)!
  • Looking back and feeling regret only gets more of the same because energy flows where attention goes. I choose to put my energy in forward motion, using it to create what I want instead of what I don't want.

    Since I love lifelong learning, I am never at a loss for the next area of personal development I want to explore.

    Knowing NLP and using it in my coaching practice allows me to quickly identify limiting beliefs and use an NLP process to clear them and replace them with an empowering belief. I love this work!
  • ireneturner
    to me regret is like worry. Really a waste of time as they make nothing better. When I do feel myself slide in either direction I meditate and connect to my Self with-in. And I get into an attitude of gratitude, counting off all that I am grateful for and then feel great! This is not to avoid feelings...contemplation and true feelings are really important in life...but mind games if what if, and worry are truly useless.
  • Wonderful questions. Great statement, "Regrets get in the way of success."

    I have spent a lot of time "shoulding" myself... I "should have" done this, "should have" done that. These words were nothing but shaming words. They got in the way of being able to move forward. Now, today, I choose to believe I am right where I need to be, at any given time. I sometimes do not do things when I would like to do them because of fear. So when I do them after recognizing that it exists, I praise myself for moving past the fear, moving forward.

    So, what's next? I am doing what I love and every day it is a little different. The question for me is not "what's next?" It is, "what's in front of me to do?" I look for the next indicated thing that needs to get done. This keeps me in the moment, instead of living in the future, or the past, for that matter. It's not "what's next." It's gratitude for what "is" at any given moment. When I focus on the next indicated thing and practice gratitude, I am taken to a place of grace and things get done and fall easily into place. The day becomes a series of things to do to reach my goal and the way becomes clear to me.

    Carolyn Jones
    http://www.gatelady.com
  • JeannieShea
    Great questions! Sometimes the first one is not so easy, to live without regrets. I think it takes active work, at least for me it does. I love that your immediate answer was No. And I love the statement "Regrets get in the way of success!". I just noticed I commented on that exact statement five months ago, so it still resonates. How to live by these beliefs: I need to think about that.
  • hmmm. interesting isn't that Jeannie!
  • Powerful questions indeed Ann. and a great way to frame life at this juncture. I think we reason we should not regret the decisions we made at that time, is because at the time we made the right decision for that moment. Now we are in a different place. We were ready. and wasnt it Einstein who said doing the same thing over and expecting different results is his definition of insanity? In order to grow, in order to get to the second question, we do need to be open to possibilities, aware of opportunity, currents, trends. Life is like a river - we are forever moving. as we move we need to adjust the way we move, fish and survive in the river, because the river bed keeps changing. If you have a direction, you may meander some times but you will keep flowing forward. The power of momentum, engagement, awareness, knowledge and belief will propel your life in the right direction. We just have to learn to create a raft, hop on it, get help navigating & buy a compass. and sometimes we have to rest on the river's edge with a glass of wine.
    Jennifer Duchene
    http://home-decorating-makeovers.com/
  • Wow woman - you have a beautiful blog post here yourself! and yes insanity, yet many people do it don't they? Everyday they get up and spend two hours checking email - is that making them money, probably not, but they are doing it!
  • Thanks Ann. You certainly know how to engage ! Its true we often stay on the banks of the river waaay to long. The fear of flying is a terrible waste. We really need to learn to make a parachute and not worry about falling. This is the stuff they should be teaching our kids in schools.

    Jennifer Duchene
    Your Home Makeover Mixtress blending cool and cozy style.
  • These are great questions with great answers. I don't have regrets because I would not be the person I am today had I not made the decisions I did and lived the experiences I had. I don't believe in living in the past--there is no future in it!
  • HeatherFries
    Thank you for the reminder that it is always worth it to go for your dreams. I am living my dream and I know it benfits my clients, they can feel it in the way I care for them.
  • There are so many things that can get in the way of our dreams, and I love that it has aligned for you Heather!
  • debbiehoffman
    You have the patience of a saint! Great post!
  • Honored to work with you Debbie and I am glad my patience and your persistence has paid off!
  • Aloha, Ann. I found this! Hurray! Babysteps...
  • Marcia - you are going to be the blogging wiz from Hawaii!
  • JeannieShea
    "Regrets get in the way of success." This is short but profound. Thanks, Ann! I found this on Twitter.
  • Thinking about how personal regrets get in the way can remove barriers for more of what we want in life! Thanks Jeannie for stopping by!
  • Rod
    Hey, Ann, great questions, I often find myself asking the second one. But I answer by;

    1. Staying flexible - Water takes the shape and form of anything it's in, that's how we have to be within our circumstances.
    2. Never settling - I have a unique hunger for the next level so I'm always looking for a way to get there.
    3. Repositioning Myself for Success - Sometimes it just takes an adjustment here or there to find "what's next." I did this recently with my career. I did it to advance my business. Here's a short video about my repositioning if you would like to learn more - http://www.rodkirby.com/archives/1526

    Great post, Ann, keep up the good work!
  • These 3 points bring to light my 2 bullets beautifully Rod! Thank you for adding these great points!
  • Rod
    No problem, Ann! Great post again, much success your way, ma'am!
  • Tom Reutebuch
    I always said, do what you love, and the money will come eventually...not that is all about the money...but just icing on the cake that allows you to continue to do what you love.
  • People are still surprised that I speak for free after 12 years in business -I so agree Tom - it's not all about the money. Besides I can't take it with me so I am spending it here! hehe!
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