by Ann Evanston | Jan 28, 2018 | Relationship
While being introduced to be interviewed for a show, the woman had really done her homework on me! She said: “one thing I love about Ann that we have in common as she says that anything worth having is worth working on.“
I have said that for years. I can remember 20 years ago being in the seminar with hundreds of women and sharing that same thing. Anything, even a great relationship takes work. At a break a woman came up and said: “I work so hard every day. The last thing I want is to go home and work on a relationship.”
Guess how that’s working?!
The same holds true of “busy” and having time for love. Very busy people find and have love everyday. Very busy people make time for love. I once remember meeting a guy I really liked. He never made time. It made me realize he wasn’t interested in love. Because if you want it…you find time.
Also, too often we are so internalized in our “busy” we are energetically shut off in our day to day activities. Open the heart, ooze love all the time. ❤️
by Ann Evanston | Jan 22, 2018 | Personal Power, Visibility
A courageous woman isn’t one that has overcome her fears. She isn’t courageous because she has overcome them, she is courageous because she IS fearful. Sometimes scared shitless!
And she is willing to try.
She is still giving the very best she can. Willing to be vulnerable, imperfect, even wrong.
A courageous women is afraid. She is fearful others will disapprove. Even dislike her. Courage is a sense of “fearlessness”….that willingness to push through all those fears.
She speaks up anyway. She goes for it anyway.
And through all that fear she comes out stronger, happier, fulfilled. More courageous.
by Ann Evanston | Jan 21, 2018 | Relationship
It seems obvious to say that in order to have a fabulous, intimate relationship that you must communicate with each other. It seems obvious to say that in order to have the loving relationship you want that you must communicate well together.
Often what is not said is that communication also requires that you never assume. Always check in with your partner. Ask questions. Find out how they’re feeling. Listen even when you don’t feel like it. Listen when you’ve heard it before. Be empathetic. Get feedback.
Yes, even ask how you are doing. Ask what you can do to be a better partner. And really listen. Non-defensively.
This is a big part of why Earl and I created date night questions.
As couples, to have deep love and intimacy we have to ask questions and answer them versus come to our own conclusions. Now I am not talking questions like: “what do you want for dinner?”!
Go deeper. Ask the hard questions!
by Ann Evanston | Jan 16, 2018 | Mindsets
As I have been exploring joy through these blogs with you, they also post to my social media. Which means friends, family even clients see them. One friend I adore left a thought provoking comment:
“The whales came to me in a dream in 2004 for my birthday with the express message to “remind me” I am innately joy, as are we all.
It didn’t feel like a reminder at the time as I wasn’t aware of Joy. Not really.
It was the discovery I embarked on as the whales’ message awoke in the experience and emanation of Joy.”
This struck me. So I saved in in my journal. Pondering it, wondering about it. Made it a part of this exploration. One night while lying awake (some of you know that feeling, lol) it popped into my mind, and I turned one part of what she said into a mantra:
I am innately joy. I AM innately joy. I am INNATELY joy. I am innately JOY.
Over and over.
Fast forward and and I wake to turning 50. Doing our morning routine; the gym, blasting, cleaning the kitchen. While doing dishes I realized something:
I am in joy.
Wait, what?
Yes, I feel it. I feel it! Why the hell now, who knows! Now I am learning about that feeling tapping in regularly.
by Ann Evanston | Jan 10, 2018 | Personal Power
I woke in the middle of the night and my brain said: “Holy cow you are going to be 50. How the fuck did that happen?”
I laid there in the bed wide-awake thinking about where 50 years of gone. I cannot complain about my life. I chose many years ago to never live with regret. To always move forward with passion and purpose.
Then I started to think about the next fifty years. Yes, I believe I’ve got another 50 in me! Here is what I absolutely know about how I will live these next several decades:
👉🏼I will live boldly and unapologetically.
👉🏼I will show the world that sexy comes in all shapes and sizes.
👉🏼I will hide less and be seen more.
👉🏼I will have more sex than I already do have!
👉🏼I will inspire more women to live their lives fully and with deep expression and love.
👉🏼I will practice ease and joy every day.
👉🏼I will earn by doing things I truly love.
👉🏼I will role model what deep, beautiful, love looks like.
OK, I could go on and on! Lying there I realized how excited I am about this next passage in life. That’s an exciting feeling at 50. So here goes, it starts today! Yes I am 50 right now!
